Today’s episode is about the most important conversation you’ll ever have. A conversation that you have every second of every day. This isn’t a conversation with your family or your significant other. It’s not with your friends. It’s not with your boss. It’s the conversation that you have with yourself and the power of self-belief.
This episode was inspired by David Goggins’ book. Can’t Hurt Me, which some call ‘The Game Plan for Peak Performance’! Get the book for free!
David Goggins. A.K.A. the toughest man alive. Retired African American Navy SEAL, Ultra-endurance athlete. Motivational speaker.
He grew up bullied, constantly mentally and physically abused. This is someone who faced racism on a day-to-day basis. This is a man who refused to accept all the odds against him. He chose to go against those odds. Goggins turned inwards and created the man he wanted to be.
I hope you enjoy today’s episode. Here are the steps of the self-belief exercise mentioned in the book.
- Examine your self-beliefs
What are your beliefs? The ones that you hold about: yourself, your mind, appearance, dating and relationships, money, work..
How do you describe yourself? Attractive/unattractive, confident/unconfident, optimistic, pessimistic etc.?
Dating and relationships: Are they easy/hard to come by, do you have to work hard for a relationship or is it seamless and easy, does one bad experience mean that all people are bad/untrustworthy, what do you think?
Jobs: Is it easy/hard to get a job? Is money hard to come by? Are rich people bad?
Life: Do you need to suffer through life constantly? Is life a constant struggle or an opportunity to grow through challenges?
- Question your beliefs
Is that belief true? Is this belief valid? Yes/No? Could it be false? Where/Who did I get that idea from?
What effect does that belief have on me and my life/my friendships/relationships/income/job?
- What if I believed otherwise? How would it affect my life?
- What would I have to believe to improve the quality of my life?
Goals for the upcoming 6 months:
- What do you want to accomplish in the next 6 months? What are your goals?
- Now look at these goals and look at your beliefs.
Do they match? Will having these beliefs contribute to you achieving your goals? Or are they an obstacle? If they are an obstacle, how would you have to change your current beliefs to make them possible? - Now change the beliefs to suit your goals. Write the new beliefs down. Look at them every morning, along with the goals list.
The thing about beliefs is that they do not necessarily have to be true, but the right belief will increase your chances of reaching a particular goal.